My #1 question would be, is Pure & True Love Selfish or Selfless? My #2 question would be, does Unconditional Love really exist? The final question I struggle with is, can you love someone more than you love yourself?
Being that Love is an emotion, based on personal philosophy and since philosophy is not a science, I am not in anyway attempting to make such declaring statements that I want to sway anyone to believing I have a PhD in any science (I am just an highly opinionated, college drop-out, who has learned and applied experience "in the streets" lol).1st things 1st... If we are all to believe it is unhealthy to love someone more than you love yourself, then love can never be selfless or unconditional. Although, if you believe in unconditional love then it would be nothing to believe that your love is selfless and unconditional.
Oddly enough, I believe in God but I do not believe in unconditional love. I do believe that love is selfish and I do believe that it is harmful to love someone else more than you love yourself. I think it would be only fair if I added that I am one of the most selfless and giving people that I know. I was originally raised in a family, home, church, school and community that instilled a philanthropy value and lead by extreme example. I turned my back from time to time on this philosophy upon reaching my early 20s and still occasionally struggle with a self-preservation instinct which is natural human instinct.
Today I look back on the many great and average relationships I have experienced over my 38 years on this planet. I have loved, been in love and been loved by a many of beautiful, gorgeous women (inside-n-out). I have chosen my mates based variety of different reasons but one has always remained steadfast. I have always wanted to be treated like a King and was always determined to treat them as my Phenomenal Feminine Pharaoh, the Queen of All Dreams.
Now not all women from my past have been treated the same. My levels of compromise have always varied individual to individual and when I reflect on the differences the reasons all remain same. How did she treat me is the only variation. When it all came down to it, my happiness was the most important thing to me and determined the level of my compromise.
In short, I can not say that i believe i can ever love another human being more than myself and to be in love is to still think selfish.
